When it comes to parenting advice for the selfie generation, one of the big topics is how to prevent narcissism. In the metaphysical and astrological world, the Pluto position at birth determines one’s generation with some generations being more selfish than others. For example, if you had a child born between November 1983 and 1995, they are part of the Scorpio “dark night of the soul.” And children born from about 1995 to 2008 were born when Pluto was in Sagittarius. Pluto in Sagittarius is part of the selfie rather than selfless generation.
However, experts say there are several steps parents take to avoid raising a narcissist. Narcissistic personality disorder is a controversial diagnosis. But many people display narcissistic characteristics without a full-blown personality disorder. According to a University of Amsterdam and Ohio State University study, parents who over-value their children create little ones who think they are more entitled and special than others.
Say No and Stick to It
When it comes to saying, no, make sure you pick your battles carefully. And it’s important to follow through. But saying no does not mean you inhibit your child’s freedom or self-expression. Instead, it helps them develop realistic expectations for the world as well as proper boundaries. So, to prevent narcissism, be firm but respectful.
Model Basic Manners
Another way to prevent narcissism is to teach your child civility and ideas of common decency. For example, do not use your cell phone when eating out. Model how to have a polite dinner conversation. And always use proper manners. Also, a fun way to get your children involved is to ask them to help set the table.
Make Kindness a Habit
Narcissistic people always look out for themselves. So to prevent narcissism, teach your children to show kindness to other people. And take your children with you when you donate to charities or volunteer. However, avoid making a big show of helping others since covert narcissists only help others for the attention.
According to the experts, another way to help is to read. One study found reading fiction helps a child feel more empathetic towards the characters. And eventually, that will transfer to other people and loved ones. Most narcissists lack the empathy or the ability to feel what another person feels. So, to prevent narcissism in your child, help them learn to be kind and considerate.
Some Final Words on How to Prevent Narcissism in Your Child
And finally, show your child unconditional love, not unconditional approval to prevent narcissism from happening. After all, approval is something you give to what they do, while love is what you give for who they are.